Most Pretty People Make Themselves Ugly
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I’d like a refund on your nasty f*cking attitude, Gina.
He was maybe one of the most gorgeous people I ever wanted to pull aside, cry with and accept an engagement proposal from. His face said “wow, I bet that will never get old” and I admit that I stared at him for an unhealthy amount of time.
People say they don’t stare, but they’re pretty good at not getting caught. And when you do catch their eyes, bam, something happens. Then you catch them again and it’s just like “oh, shit, now he actually is looking at me”.
We talked. We danced. Everything was just perfect until he said he had to go to the bathroom. Five minutes later, in my tipsy stupor, I spotted him.
Of course, dancing with someone else.
I didn’t like that ugly blonde highlight anyway, asshole.
Isn’t it amazing how quickly people become unattractive? One minute you’re like “wow, you’re gorgeous” and the next minute you’re wondering how you can catch the next flight outta there.
We used to talk about attractiveness like it was a numbers game. We’d say “A 7 can easily become a 9, but a 10 can instantly be a 4.” It’s easier to start with low expectations and climb up this attractiveness ladder, so to speak.
I don’t find many people my age to be very self-reflective. So much focus on having things instead of being better people. Encouraged to conquer, but not help. Talking to people my age at the bar is absolutely nauseating.
There’s an emphasis on self-care nowadays, but I don’t think there’s an emphasis on productive self-criticism. Reckoning with our pasts, our demons and our nasty habits that manifest into treating each other like total pieces of shit.
I think about who is most attractive to me when the looks fade away. Those who are vulnerable. Working on themselves. Present. Maybe it’s true. Maybe you do find who you’re looking for when you embody those qualities yourself.
I don’t know, but it’s worth finding out.
Originally published on P.S. I Love You
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April 15, 2019 at 09:02PM